Background

LL

I've posted quite a few encounters under my related blog Mutuality. This link will take you there.

I thought it might help your understanding if I explained the background, especially as ,at the time, you were in the background for part of the period in question.

You may recall one evening in Florida, in early 2004, out on the patio under the lanai. You had imbibed quite a bit of wine and were very talkative. That was when you revealed by a slip of the tongue that you had been seeing that guy with the Spanish name. I learned later that you had been in touch with others not least of which is your man of some ten years standing.

Against that backdrop, and your refusal to commit (I knew why as a result of finding out the above), I decided I had better 'hedge my bets'. I'm sure your memory is good enough to recall that we only met weekends, most times. I decided then that I would 'entertain' myself by building some social contacts in the East where I lived most of the time, back then. So it was that I met a number of women, all based in the UK, that were free and just wanted to spend time with a man.

I found it relatively easy to meet those women, some of whom figure in the blog referred to above, and for both them and I to enjoy each other. You said in early 2006 (a tad late) that there were plenty of women out there that wanted to get laid. You were right, for once, but you were two years late in your 'advice'. There was however more to my life from Spring 2004 than sex. I enjoy the company of women and I enjoyed the company of all the women you have 'seen' so far. We dined out, dined in, went to shows in London and in some cases vacationed together.

All the time I kept up the pretense with you because I thought we had something. Of course the trust went quite early on when I leaned of your activities, playing away with J. Along with the trust went my love for you. In 2004 that quietly broke my heart, but as you surmised in 2005 and 2006, I am strong and soon picked myself up. That stuff in 2005/2006 was just to teach you a lesson not to 'play with fire because you may get burned'. The people employed, so to speak, were quite real.

A footnote to that event. Due to my 'status' what you thought happened in the case 'never did'. I'll leave you to figure that one out, but I doubt you ever will.

The following year, 2005, was one long  year of unadulterated (I like that word in this context) pleasure for me, especially when you compounded your previous misdemeanors with the one in March of that year. Did you really think I believed what you told me? If you did then you are a bigger fool than I originally took you for.

In September of that year I was looking at investing in Cyprus, as you know, and I thought I would give you one last chance. I was seeing another lady then just as you were seeing your man. No, I don't feel guilty over that, given what you had done. You followed it all up with a plethora of lies which were easily found out.

There was no way I was going to let you know the extent of my wealth either. Hence the fact I kept our lives together 'low key' in terms of lifestyle and expenditure. I recall you once saying 'so you are running out of money'. My ploy undoubtedly worked, if you swallowed that hook, line and sinker! I found it hilarious when you thought you had left me and you said 'be careful with your money with women out there'.

All old stuff but I thought I would recap.

The life I enjoyed that year, 2005, was wonderful and quite fancy free. It tipped over into 2006 as well. So, pretty much three years, all told, of wine, women and laughter. I first met A in 2005 in the UK and I traveled with her, here in the USA, during that March when you thought I was visiting relatives. We 'hooked up' again in 2006 and that was when we got together permanently and married. Here we are, nearly 10 years later, loving life and loving each other.

You were an utter fool. You passed up on the best prospect you ever had in life all for a little short term pleasure. I won't reiterate where you find yourself ten years on, but it's not a lot different to where you were when I first met you.

Morally, what you did was reprehensible and indeed also the retention of the baubles. We, that is N and I, have not forgotten them.

I will continue with my blogs of the women I met but by and large will spare you the photographic evidence. You will have noted from what has already been posted, that there were indeed some gorgeous ladies out there. I had no need of women near my age group, as you were. Consequently they were younger, fitter, firmer and largely blemish free....unlike you.

I have been up and down the coast this week on business. The weather is warm and pleasant and we plan on spending a few months here before heading for Europe. I guess you have a few repetitive Spanish trips lined up. Do neither of you have an imagination? What a rut to be stuck in.

Having said all that take care and .... ciao for now