Back in the Old Routine - Regrets - hers

Observations

We have both been greatly amused by two large visitors to our 'backyard' recently. 

The week they 'chose', although given the occasion there was really no choice, was one of quite bad weather in what, most times of the year, is a real paradise.She has learnt nothing from previous trips with me. There was a reason for those visits in the months from October thru April/May. The weather is perfick!

She will have realised that the charges in my home country were withdrawn...and some time ago, largely at the behest of my wife. LL is not worth the effort...or expense! I gained some enjoyment from the pretence they were still in place.

No wonder LL didn't want me to see her man back then - I'd have laughed, and still am. What a size and, along with his religion (soccer), what a boring existence. Eight years plus of going to and fro every weekend merely to eat, shop etc. The eating certainly shows on both of you....and to such an extent. If weren't married I don't think LL would attract me at all, physically, not now. That's quite a 'tire' she has around her middle. Whatever happened to her! She really let herself go. Time, also, to change her fashion and the stores she frequents. They do nothing for her.

Now, she may wonder why I haven't let her see a photo of my wife (apart from a 'headless' one). Simple really, on two counts. One, she is very well known, State-side  in particular, and two, I think she would be even more jealous than she was of Carole. In the latter case, I find that quite amusing. I think she thought I couldn't attract beautiful women and labored under the belief that, having thought she left, and left me high and dry, was quite taken aback at what was the real situation. Women like me and I like them.

C still keeps in touch.

How wrong she was then and has been.

Travels and Sojourns

We have been in the UK briefly on our way to Europe.. After a fair bit of research we have bought another property, this time in Sandbanks  Poole, Dorset...my old stamping ground pretty much, and where the children grew up to their teens. $13m... but it is on the water. Looking at boats when we get back to the UK. Seems a sin to waste a good harbour.

Getting back, that is, from our summer sojourn in Europe.....Paris, Carcassonne, Marbella, Nice, Sorrento etc. Still have the place in Skyros, too. So a busy but relaxing summer ahead. Not so sure about her...another trip to Spain for a birthday just completed.

He is something of a self opinionated idiot isn't he. Doesn't like to be wrong and pretty full of himself and full of bull**** - how the hell did she end up with someone like that. I wouldn't have thought he was her type at all, but after 8 years I guess you are stuck with him. And, after all you are nearly 60 now. Looking at him during their enforced US stopover, his head is too small for his body, it seems. Or more accurately, his body is too big for his head and for his continued good health. Won't make old bones - I don't think.

It's hebe(s) by the way and not 'heebies'. Nice to see a few bumble bees foraging. Crab racing is for red-necks in themed pubs...but I guess that's what he is and where she was. I see she thought there were some beautiful churches and castles on her recent visit. Time she saw old Spain after all those beach side holidays. There's more to this country than the 'Costas'. Try Granada, Seville or Cordoba if she is seeking culture, at long last. 

Meetings

I am pretty sure her meeting FM had nothing in common with my meeting my wife...she back in March 2005 behind my back....me just a few months short of a year later. First difference in our situations is that I live and sleep with my wife each day pretty much. She doesn't and he hasn't married her. Eight years for her of travelling for weekends and 7 3/4 years of a very happy married life for me.

Our meeting - my wife that is - was so far removed from my experience with her as to belong to a different world. As she knows we met at a college at the university in Cambridge, UK. She was so beautiful then and so beautiful now, warm loving and a lady with class. She loves me and I her. I can't imagine life without her now.

It was in all the little things, too, that LL failed, let alone the really big one - fidelity. I don't believe she really knows how to behave in a true relationship. Her succession of partners/husbands bears witness to that, or her judgement is poor....or both.

It is also in all the little things that my wife excels - she cares, really cares....LL never really did. Too selfish and too 'me' orientated. It's still evident in her social media comments, so I guess she will never change.

It amuses and intrigues me that after nearly 9  years she still feels a need to keep track of my life. I ask myself, is that because of regret, envy or because life for her now is not that great. Only she knows but I can guess.

The words may be filtered but a picture is worth a thousand words